The Working Mom's Guide to Summer (Without the Guilt)

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Every summer seems to come with the same impossible expectation. We're supposed to keep our businesses running, answer emails, show up to meetings, manage childcare, shuttle kids between camps and activities, and somehow create the kind of magical summer our children will remember forever. When we inevitably feel stretched too thin, it's easy to assume we're simply not managing our time well enough.

During a recent episode of In Focus, I shared something I've learned after years of balancing life as a pediatric ophthalmologist, practice owner, and mom of three. No matter what stage of motherhood I've been in, summer has always required a different rhythm. The problem wasn't that I suddenly became less productive. The problem was expecting my July schedule to function like it was September.

Summer Requires a Different Definition of Productivity

One of the biggest mindset shifts came when I stopped treating summer like a failed version of the rest of the year. During the school year, routines naturally support focused work. Summer is different. Camps end early, childcare changes from week to week, vacations interrupt routines, and the house is simply louder.

Instead of asking why I couldn't accomplish everything on my to-do list, I started asking what actually needed to happen that week. Accepting that summer productivity looks different didn't mean lowering my standards. It meant recognizing that this season required different expectations, and that made all the difference.

Stop Trying to Do Every Kind of Work All at Once

For years, I tried to squeeze strategic thinking, creative projects, emails, meetings, and family responsibilities into whatever pockets of time I could find. It rarely worked. I constantly felt interrupted, and by the end of the day it seemed like I had been busy for hours without making meaningful progress.

What finally helped was separating deep work from lighter work. Writing, planning, and big decisions require uninterrupted focus. Emails, scheduling, and smaller administrative tasks can happen in shorter windows. Once I stopped expecting myself to do deep work in the middle of summer chaos, I became far less frustrated with both my work and my family.

Your Kids Don't Need a Perfect Schedule

I also realized that my family didn't need every minute of summer planned. They needed consistency.

Instead of trying to create the perfect daily schedule, I focused on a few predictable anchors, like breakfast together, a protected work block, lunch after camp, or dinner without phones. Just as importantly, I started telling my kids exactly when I would be working and when I would be available again. Knowing what to expect reduced interruptions because they understood that "not now" wasn't the same as "not ever."

Let Go of the Guilt Around Screens

Few parenting topics create more guilt than screen time, especially when you're trying to work from home. The reality is that sometimes the iPad comes out because you have a meeting that truly can't wait.

Rather than trying to eliminate screens completely, I found it more helpful to think ahead. When my children were younger, I kept special activities that only came out during work calls. As they got older, that became a conversation about different ways they could spend their time. Screens were sometimes part of that plan, but they weren't the automatic answer every time I needed an hour of focus.

A Good Summer Doesn't Have to Be Extraordinary

Working parents often feel like every free moment needs to become a core memory to make up for the hours spent working. I've found the opposite is usually true.

Some of my favorite memories with my children didn't come from elaborate outings or perfectly planned vacations. They came from conversations in the car, making dinner together, or sitting outside at the end of the day without rushing somewhere else. Children don't necessarily remember whether every day was exciting. They remember whether you were present when you were with them.

Final Thoughts

If you're trying to work while your kids are home this summer, give yourself permission to stop measuring success by how closely your days resemble the school year. Summer has its own rhythm, and fighting against it only creates more frustration.

Focus on the work that truly matters, communicate clearly with your family, and let go of the idea that you have to do everything perfectly. You don't need a flawless schedule or a magical summer. You simply need a plan that reflects the season you're actually living in.

Sometimes the most productive thing you can do isn't squeezing more into your day. It's accepting that this season looks different and giving yourself permission to work differently because of it.

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Thanks for reading — and for doing what you can to protect your family's vision, health, and well-being, one step at a time.

– Dr. Rupa Wong
Pediatric Ophthalmologist | Surgeon | Mom of 3

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